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]]> http://www.speedofcreativity.org/2007/10/22/internet-safety-the-mistake-of-talking-down-to-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-42037 Jamison Tue, 23 Oct 2007 13:35:21 +0000 http://www.speedofcreativity.org/2007/10/22/internet-safety-the-mistake-of-talking-down-to-kids/#comment-42037 WONDERFUL tips. I think one of the major issues is that so many parents see these media stories about nightmare-ish things that happen to kids as a result of IM-ing, so when their 12 year old asks permission to start chatting, the parent freaks out, says no, and wants to lock them up in their room. Or, if the child is a chatter, and tells their parents that a stranger asked them if they like older guys, the parent wigs out and scares the child so much that the child NEVER goes to their parents ever again when they see something that makes them uncomfortable. parents need to find a medium between being protective, and trusting the child enough, training them to make the right decisions and showing them what is wrong when they make poor choices... WONDERFUL tips. I think one of the major issues is that so many parents see these media stories about nightmare-ish things that happen to kids as a result of IM-ing, so when their 12 year old asks permission to start chatting, the parent freaks out, says no, and wants to lock them up in their room. Or, if the child is a chatter, and tells their parents that a stranger asked them if they like older guys, the parent wigs out and scares the child so much that the child NEVER goes to their parents ever again when they see something that makes them uncomfortable. parents need to find a medium between being protective, and trusting the child enough, training them to make the right decisions and showing them what is wrong when they make poor choices…

]]> http://www.speedofcreativity.org/2007/10/22/internet-safety-the-mistake-of-talking-down-to-kids/comment-page-1/#comment-42009 Kent Chesnut Mon, 22 Oct 2007 20:45:35 +0000 http://www.speedofcreativity.org/2007/10/22/internet-safety-the-mistake-of-talking-down-to-kids/#comment-42009 Wesley, Very interesting article. I think success in working with your teen to deal with proper internet usage has several key elements: * Trust - You have to be able to trust your teen. Do you believe that they want to do right? Do they know the right thing? * Respect - This had better be reciprical. I need to treat my teen with respect as well as be respected. * Accountability - Some sort of blocking and / or tracking mechanism for web-sites visited (or using the browser history if the trust relationship is high) along with a consistent review of the websites visited. * Reality - the recognition that the things that interest teens may be more "internet risky" than the things that interest me. In other words, by the nature of the places teens visit they are more likely to hit an offensive link occasionally then when I'm browsing educational technology blogs. (One strategy that I used here was with my oldest son when he was in high school; if he ran across an offensive link, he made a note of it. Those notes were available to me when I was reviewing his internet use.) Regards, Kent Chesnut Wesley, Very interesting article. I think success in working with your teen to deal with proper internet usage has several key elements:
* Trust - You have to be able to trust your teen. Do you believe that they want to do right? Do they know the right thing?
* Respect - This had better be reciprical. I need to treat my teen with respect as well as be respected.
* Accountability - Some sort of blocking and / or tracking mechanism for web-sites visited (or using the browser history if the trust relationship is high) along with a consistent review of the websites visited.
* Reality - the recognition that the things that interest teens may be more “internet risky” than the things that interest me. In other words, by the nature of the places teens visit they are more likely to hit an offensive link occasionally then when I’m browsing educational technology blogs. (One strategy that I used here was with my oldest son when he was in high school; if he ran across an offensive link, he made a note of it. Those notes were available to me when I was reviewing his internet use.)
Regards,
Kent Chesnut

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